I have been thinking a lot about my next door neighbors. They are an elderly couple whose kids live over an hour away. Mr. George and Mrs. Pat are as good as gold! The other day, Mrs. Pat was out for her morning walk and tripped and fell face first on the concrete…YIKES! She was hurt pretty badly. The sad thing is, 3 cars passed her in our neighborhood without stopping to help her. She was even trying to flag them down!
One time a Pharisee asked Jesus, “What’s the most important commandment of all?” You see there were 1,613 commands. That’s a lot of commands. Jesus took these 1,613 and He narrowed it down to an absolute focus, and He replied. He said,
‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.‘ Matthew 22:37-39
Herein lies the problem…it all boils down to the air conditioner. Think about it. Go back in time before there was the air conditioner, where did people hang out? They would hang out on the front porch. Right? “Hey, neighbor!”
With the air conditioner, people went inside. Add to it the attached garage. Before there was an attached garage, what would people do? They would drive into their detached garage and have to get out and walk. Now, with the attached garage, they can pull right in. Add to it the garage door opener, ziiiipppp brrrrr, pull in the back cave, shut it down before you have to see anybody.
Now add to it the gated neighborhood so we can actually gate people out. The fenced in back yard so we can play without having to see those crazy, weird neighbors. My personal favorite way to avoid people was the answering machine. Beep … “Tommy, are you there? If you’re there, pick up.” “I know you are there! Why are you not picking up?”
And then, there’s caller ID. Cell phone rings. Think about the way technology has influenced our, taken us away from relationships. You go to the bank, you don’t have to talk to anybody. You can go to the ATM machine. Shopping, I don’t do it. You will rarely ever see me at a mall, unless I’m going to a movie trying to sneak in and sneak out. I do all of my shopping online. Movies, they’re delivered to my mailbox with no late fees, Praise God in Heaven Above.
All these ways to avoid people, avoid relationships, when Jesus said out of 1,613 commands, let’s boil it all down to this. You are to know God and love Him personally and reflect His love, loving your neighbor as yourself. And yet, most people today say they don’t have time. I did some research this week for fun. I looked up some phrases in the Bible that said the words one another, and I wanted to see just what happened. I listed a few of them for you. There are many, many more.
Love one another… John 13:34 (wouldn’t you agree, in reality a lot of times what we are doing instead of loving one another is, we are avoiding one another?) If you have ever been in a grocery store and you’ve seen somebody you don’t really want to see and you take your little cart and you kind of take your buggy in the opposite direction, avoiding one another.
Be devoted to one another… Rom. 12:10a But wouldn’t you agree that a lot of times, the heartbeat of what we are trying to do is not to be devoted, but to be independent from one another. “I don’t want to need you because you may let me down and I’ve been burned before, and so really, I want to be strong and stand on my own, and I just don’t want to need people. I want be vulnerable, and I don’t want you to be needy around me. Instead of being devoted, a lot of us are trying to be independent.
Honor one another… Rom. 12:10b
Accept one another… Rom 15:7
Serve one another in love. Gal 5:13
Be compassionate to one another… Eph 4:32
Submit to one another… Eph 5:21
Encourage one another… 1 Thess 5:11
Spur one another on toward love… Heb 10:24
Live in harmony with one another… 1 Peter 3:8
Offer hospitality to one another… 1 Peter 4:9
We are told to do all these loving things to one another and yet, right now at this moment, you can be surrounded by people and yet with people all around you that are relationally empty and lonely. You can be married, laying in bed next to your spouse and be lonely, because we have ignored the heartbeat of God, and that is relationships. That’s why He created you, because He is love and He needed someone to love. You are the object of His affection, and He wants you to share that love with other people … and we’re too busy!
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